Regain Your Freedom with Forgiveness

Discover the benefits of forgiving yourself and others, and how to get started on your journey to regain your freedom with forgiveness.

Forgiveness and its importance to regain your freedom

True forgiveness is one of the most powerful things we can do for ourselves and for those around us. It allows us to let go of the past, and to move on with our lives. It doesn’t mean that we forget what happened, or that we condone  the actions of the other person. Could mean that we release the anger, bitterness, and resentment that we have been carrying around for so long.

Forgiveness is not easy. It can be one of the most difficult things we ever do. But it is worth it. The benefits are enormous – both for us and for those around us .

So how do we go about forgiving? How do you begin to heal the wounds of the past and regain your freedom? Below are some tips that can help you get started.

What is the true meaning of forgiveness

Forgiveness is the act of consciously and deliberately letting go of animosity toward someone who has harmed you, regardless of whether they deserve it.

It is the process of ceasing to feel anger, resentment, and bitterness toward another person and instead extending compassion and understanding.

Forgiveness is not the same as pardoning or condoning someone’s actions. It does not mean that you have to forget what happened or that you have to continue to associate with the person who harmed  you.

It is possible to forgive someone and still take action to protect yourself from further harm.

The characteristics of forgiveness

In other words, to forgive someone is to acknowledge that a wrong has been committed, but you do not hold that against a person. In light of these points, here are some characteristics of grace and forgiveness: patience, kindness, mercy, and most of love.

The power of forgiveness to regain your freedom

Forgiveness entails giving up the difficulties of the past and being ready to walk forward with far greater inner freedom potential. Aside from the benefit of releasing a traumatic past, several health advantages go hand-in-hand with forgiveness. Researchers found that people who forgive are less likely to experience stress, anxiety, and depression.

What does forgiveness do to the brain

According to a research  study published in the journal “Cognitive, Affective, & Behavioural Neuroscience” in 2009, forgiveness is linked with increased gray matter density in regions of the brain associated with self-awareness, empathy, and stress regulation.

Activations in a brain network involved in theory of mind, empathy, and the regulation of affect through cognition, which included the praecuneus, right inferior parietal regions, and the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex, were linked with offering forgiveness.

What happens to your body when you forgive

The good news is that forgiveness has been linked to several health advantages, including a decreased incidence of heart attacks, better cholesterol levels and sleep, and reduced pain, blood pressure, and anxiety. In fact, one study found that people who forgave reported feeling less anger and resentment and more happiness and love.

How to regain your freedom when someone won’t forgive you

When someone won’t forgive you, it can be very frustrating and hurtful. It may feel like they are holding onto the past and not letting go of the pain. In some cases, it may feel like they are punishing you for something that you did wrong.

It’s important to remember that forgiveness is a personal choice. You  can’t control how someone else feels or behaves. You can only control how you react to their behaviour.

If you are trying to forgive someone who won’t forgive you, it can be a difficult process. It’s important to remember that forgiving someone is not about excusing their behaviour or making them feel better. It’s about freeing yourself from  the pain that they caused you.

There are a few things that you can do to help you forgive someone who won’t forgive you and get your freedom back:

-Talk to a friend or mentor. They can help you explore your feelings and give you some guidance on how to deal with them. 

-Write a letter to the person who won ‘t forgive you. In the letter, explain how their behaviour has affected you. Be honest and express your feelings openly. Don’t try to make them feel guilty or manipulate them into forgiving you.

How to forgive someone who is not sorry

Forgiveness is not about the other person; it’s about you. It’s about freeing yourself from the chains of resentment and bitterness that are holding you back from experiencing peace and joy. In order to forgive someone who is not sorry, you have to do it for yourself, not for them. You have to find  the strength to let go of the hurt and anger and choose to forgive anyway. 

My favourite mantra that helped me let go of my past and excel in life  and you can use it too.

It’s also important to express your feelings on paper or in your journal regarding them not apologizing to you and how you’re going to let go of this desire and expectation of hearing their apology.

You may either affirm or compose the following:

• “I am now ready to let go of this idea of hearing an apology from “their name” and to move on with my life.”
• “I understand and accept that they are unable to do any better than this, and it is up to me to take charge of my thoughts and emotions. “
• “I deserve to be pain-free, hurt-free, stress-free and free of any expectations from “_” or my life in the present”.
• ” I am loving and valuable; I am free of the old hurt.” Repeat as needed until you feel a sense of comfort with regard to pain or expectations. If you need any further guidance on how to personalise your strategy to forgive yourself or others, book your free discovery call with me.

4 Steps To Forgive Someone Who Keeps Hurting You

1. Stop being a victim

Part of the process of forgiving someone is to take back your mental power. No longer will you allow this person to hurt you—physically, emotionally, or mentally. Change your thinking and beliefs of being a victim with “I am in control now”.

2. Take responsibility for your own happiness 

This means  you don’t rely on anyone else to make you happy. You take control of your emotions and refuse to allow someone else’s bad behaviour to dictate how you feel.

3. Set boundaries and stick to them

It goes along with taking responsibility for your happiness. If someone violates your boundaries, you will need to enforce them. It might mean distancing yourself from the person who hurt you or completely cutting ties. Find out more about healthy boundaries.

4. Practice detachment and regain freedom

Detachment is not being attached to the outcome. This means you don’t expect the person who hurt you to change. You won’t put all of your eggs into one basket, so to speak. You release the need for them to make things right and forgive them from a place of compassion and peace.

What to say to someone who has hurt you deeply to regain your peace

There is no one-size-fits-all answer, as the best thing to say will vary based on the relationship you have with the person who hurt you. However, some general tips might include expressing how you feel, using “I” statements, and being clear about what you need from them. You can also express your hope for the  future, even if things are currently strained.

For example, you might say something like, “I feel really hurt and angry when you do …

I need you to _____ and _____ from now on. I hope we can have a better relationship in the future”

Conclusion:How do you forgive and regain your freedom

First, you need to understand that forgiveness is not a feeling; it’s a choice. You choose to forgive because you want to move on and have a better life.

Second, you need to understand that forgiving someone doesn’t mean that you condone their behaviour or forget what they did.

Third, you need to be able to forgive yourself. You have to be able to say, “I did the best I could at the time, and I’m sorry for the hurt I caused.” Finally, you need to let go of the anger and bitterness. You have to release the person from your grip and let them go.

Before you go,

Forgiveness is one of the most powerful tools we have to move on from our past and live a joyful life. In this post, we answered some of the most commonly asked questions about forgiveness. We explored what forgiveness is, its importance, and how to go about forgiving someone or oneself. If you are struggling with holding onto past hurts or feeling  stuck in your past, forgiveness can be the key to unlocking the door to your happiness. Find out more about how to give yourself the gift of living again by practicing forgiveness  and more tips and secrets on my latest book here.

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Stay Blessed,

Emilia x

Award-Winning Author, Intuitive Mindset Coach and Creator of Take Action Now Program